Psixoloq R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov:<\/b>\u00a0“Valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 psixoloqa aparmaqdan \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Psixoloqlar “d\u0259li h\u0259kimi\u201d deyil. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda el\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f ver\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, u\u015faq onu \u00f6z do\u011fmalar\u0131 il\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxa bil\u0259r.\u201d<\/p>\n
D\u00fcnyada insan \u00f6l\u00fcml\u0259rinin \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rind\u0259n biri d\u0259 intiharlard\u0131r.T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcfl\u0259r olsun ki, m\u00fcasir d\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0259n \u00e7ox m\u00fcbariz\u0259 apard\u0131\u011f\u0131 qlobal b\u0259lalar\u0131n da ba\u015f\u0131nda intiharlar dayan\u0131r. \u00dcst\u0259lik g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u0259n t\u0259dbirl\u0259r\u0259 baxmayaraq nisb\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 he\u00e7 bir geril\u0259m\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 olunmur. \u018fn d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tlisi is\u0259 bu b\u0259lan\u0131n art\u0131q azya\u015fl\u0131lara s\u0131\u00e7ramas\u0131d\u0131r. Bir s\u00f6zl\u0259 intihar c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 meydan oxuyan universal problem olaraq qal\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Psixoloq, “\u0130nsan M\u00fch\u0259ndisliyi\u201d proqram\u0131n\u0131n r\u0259hb\u0259ri R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov u\u015faq intihar\u0131 m\u00f6vzusunda Voicepress.az-\u0131n u\u015faq psixologiyas\u0131na dair vacib m\u0259qamlarla ba\u011fl\u0131 suallar\u0131n\u0131 cavabland\u0131rd\u0131.<\/b><\/p>\n
G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn g\u00fcnd\u0259md\u0259n he\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259y\u0259n m\u00f6vzular\u0131ndan biridir intihar hadis\u0259l\u0259ri. \u018fn pisi m\u00fcasir d\u00f6vrd\u0259 intihar t\u0259\u015f\u0259bb\u00fcsl\u0259rinin u\u015faqlar v\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r aras\u0131nda geni\u015f yay\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130ntiharla ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u0259lum yanl\u0131\u015f t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcrl\u0259r varm\u0131?<\/b><\/p>\n
\u0130nsan\u0131n intihar etm\u0259si t\u0259hrik olunmu\u015f ideyan\u0131n icra m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259sidir. \u0130ntihar ideyad\u0131r. B\u00fct\u00fcn ideyalar\u0131n sonu \u00f6l\u00fcmd\u00fcrs\u0259, intihar\u0131n ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c\u0131 ideyan\u0131n yaranmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan psixologiyas\u0131nda \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin tamamlanmas\u0131 prosesi m\u00fcnt\u0259z\u0259m davam ed\u0259n prosesdir. \u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n ya\u015f kateqoriyas\u0131nda \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin z\u0259d\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259si hallar\u0131 m\u00f6vcuddur. \u015e\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin z\u0259d\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259sini m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 ets\u0259k g\u00f6r\u0259rik ki, bir hadis\u0259 yox, d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 t\u0259krarlanan eyni hadis\u0259l\u0259r insan\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na z\u0259rb\u0259l\u0259ri endirir. B\u0259z\u0259n diqq\u0259timizd\u0259n k\u0259nar bu hallar ba\u015f verir. Bizim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn asan g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n probleml\u0259r v\u0259 ya situasiyalar ba\u015fqalar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7\u0259tin anlard\u0131r. \u0130ntihar etmi\u015f \u015f\u0259xsin s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri var. \u0130ntihar\u0131n ya\u015f\u0131 yoxdur. \u0130ntihar c\u0259sar\u0259tin g\u00f6st\u0259ricisidir. \u0130ntihar\u0131 acizlik kimi qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259k probleml\u0259rd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. \u0130ntihar etm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 ya etmi\u015f \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin h\u0259yat\u0131nda dialoq olmur. \u0130ntihar etmi\u015f insanlar\u0131 d\u0259b\u0259 g\u0259tirm\u0259k laz\u0131m deyil. Ba\u015fqalar\u0131 da d\u0259b\u0259 g\u0259lmi\u015f olur. \u0130ntihar etm\u0259yi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n insan hesab edir ki, onun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc d\u00fcnyan\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n
\u0130ntihar t\u0259bli\u011fat\u0131 bir \u00e7ox m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259t v\u0259 subm\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259td\u0259 m\u00f6vcuddur. Bu g\u00fcn internetd\u0259 intihar haqq\u0131nda axtar\u0131\u015flar\u0131n 10\u201330%-i intihar c\u0259hdl\u0259rini t\u0259\u015fviq edir v\u0259 ya asanla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r.<\/b><\/p>\n
B\u0259li tamamil\u0259 do\u011frudur.\u0130st\u0259r media qurumlar\u0131nda, ist\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259 sosial platformalarda intiharla ba\u011fl\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259r maarifl\u0259ndirici olmayanda, x\u0259b\u0259r t\u0259bli\u011fat xarakteri da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. B\u00fct\u00fcn yana\u015fmalar v\u0259 t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcrl\u0259rin istinad\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. S\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r v\u0259 b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259r m\u00fczakir\u0259 edil\u0259 bil\u0259r, amma m\u00fchakim\u0259 edil\u0259 bilm\u0259z.<\/p>\n
Bu g\u00fcn Az\u0259rbaycanda art\u0131q u\u015faqlar intihar edir. Bir u\u015faq niy\u0259 intihar etm\u0259k fikrin\u0259 qap\u0131l\u0131r? \u00d6l\u00fcm haqq\u0131nda hans\u0131 m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr?<\/b><\/p>\n
Bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n intihar haqq\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259si faci\u0259dir. Amma biz faci\u0259 deyib ke\u00e7\u0259 bilmirik. Bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n intihar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u0259b\u0259b v\u0259 ya s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r var. \u0130ntihar haqq\u0131nda q\u0259rar vermi\u015f u\u015faq \u00f6z d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Ail\u0259d\u0259, m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259 v\u0259 dig\u0259r m\u00fchitl\u0259rd\u0259 korlanm\u0131\u015f m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n intihar etm\u0259sin\u0259 q\u0131\u011f\u0131lc\u0131m yarad\u0131r. U\u015faq intihar haqq\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rsa v\u0259 bunu ifad\u0259 edirs\u0259, ona bigan\u0259 yana\u015fmaq olmaz. U\u015faq psixologiyas\u0131nda \u0259sas meyar f\u0259rdi yana\u015fmad\u0131r. Biz u\u015faqlara f\u0259rdi yana\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131q. H\u0259r bir insan\u0131n f\u0259rdi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri var. U\u015faqlar\u0131n psixoportreti il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olmal\u0131y\u0131q. Valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 h\u0259ssas olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. U\u015faqlar\u0131 il\u0259 empatiya qurma\u011f\u0131 bacarmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fcnt\u0259z\u0259m m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u015fahidlik etmi\u015f u\u015faqlar buna \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259b \u00f6zl\u0259rini g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r. U\u015faqlar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, onlar h\u0259yatda olmasalar m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259ni sonland\u0131rm\u0131\u015f olacaqlar. Pataloji hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 hal \u015fahidliyi etmi\u015f u\u015faqlar psixi g\u0259rginlik ya\u015fay\u0131rlar. Valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 psixoloqa aparmaqdan \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Psixoloqlar “d\u0259li h\u0259kimi\u201d deyil. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda el\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f ver\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, u\u015faq onu \u00f6z do\u011fmalar\u0131 il\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxa bil\u0259r. U\u015faqlar h\u0259ssas olurlar. \u018fn ki\u00e7ik n\u00fcans bel\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n psixikas\u0131na t\u0259sir edir. \u00d6l\u00fcm haqq\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259nin formala\u015fmas\u0131 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131 oldu\u011fu m\u00fchitd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. U\u015faqlar\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 psixoloji b\u00f6hranlara, m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259diyimiz anlay\u0131\u015flar da s\u0259b\u0259b olur.<\/p>\n
U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n intihara meyillilik v\u0259ziyy\u0259tini nec\u0259 anlaya bil\u0259rik?<\/b><\/p>\n
U\u015faqlar\u0131n v\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rin ifad\u0259 etdiyi intihar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si v\u0259 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 h\u0259r zaman ciddi q\u0259bul edilm\u0259lidir. \u0130ntihar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rinin manipulyativ t\u0259hdidl\u0259rini ciddi intihar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259sind\u0259n f\u0259rql\u0259ndirm\u0259kh\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 asan olmur. Depressiyaya, dig\u0259r psixi simptomlara v\u0259 madd\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na daima diqq\u0259t yetirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u0259c\u0259yi il\u0259 h\u0259d\u0259l\u0259y\u0259n u\u015faqlar \u0259trafdak\u0131lardan onlar\u0131n \u00e7ar\u0259siz olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259rk etm\u0259l\u0259rini ist\u0259yirl\u0259r v\u0259 ist\u0259kl\u0259ri n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmad\u0131qda planlar\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259yata ke\u00e7ir\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Psixoloji m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259r zaman\u0131 ayd\u0131n olur ki, destruktiv poz\u011funluqlar, asosial davran\u0131\u015f, madd\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131,narahatl\u0131q v\u0259 \u0259hval-ruhiyy\u0259 poz\u011funluqlar\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131n v\u0259 x\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rin intihar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259ndirilir.Ail\u0259d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na diqq\u0259t etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. M\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259b psixoloqlar\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131n psixoloji pasportlar\u0131n\u0131 formala\u015fd\u0131rmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. H\u0259r bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n hekay\u0259si var, b\u0259z\u0259n u\u015faqlar \u00f6z hekay\u0259l\u0259rini gizl\u0259dirl\u0259r. Onlar\u0131n psixohekay\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fmaq olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn pe\u015f\u0259kar yana\u015fmalara ehtiyac var. He\u00e7 bir halda u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n neqativ davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na bigan\u0259 yana\u015fmaq olmaz.<\/p>\n
U\u015faqlar daha \u00e7ox hans\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini \u00e7ar\u0259siz hiss edirl\u0259r?<\/b><\/p>\n
\u0130ntihar ed\u0259n u\u015faqlar \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 depressiv olurlar v\u0259 bu hallar daha \u00e7ox xaotik ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n u\u015faqlarda olur. \u00c7\u0259tin h\u0259yat t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259ri v\u0259valideyn bo\u015fanmas\u0131, yax\u0131n adam\u0131n itkisi, \u015fidd\u0259t, sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tinin sona \u00e7atmas\u0131, m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259, valideynl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n m\u00fcxt\u0259lif probleml\u0259ru\u015faqlar\u0131 intihar etm\u0259y\u0259meyill\u0259ndirir. \u018flav\u0259 risk yaradan faktorlara ail\u0259d\u0259 alkoqol v\u0259 d\u0259rmanlar\u0131n istifad\u0259si, \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r ba\u015f vermi\u015f intihar h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u00e7ar\u0259sizliyini m\u00f6hk\u0259ml\u0259ndirir. U\u015faqlar\u0131n intihar s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rin\u0259 cinsi oriyentasiya azl\u0131\u011f\u0131, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 fiziki v\u0259 ya cinsi zorak\u0131l\u0131q daxildir. Ail\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faqla dialoq qurulmal\u0131d\u0131r. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n se\u00e7iml\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z fikrini ifad\u0259 etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fchit formala\u015fmayanda u\u015faq alternativ yollar axtar\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131 il\u0259 empatiya qurmal\u0131d\u0131rlar v\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n da empatiya qurmaq bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Empatiya hissini ifad\u0259 ed\u0259n u\u015faq h\u0259r zaman dialoqun vacib oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259k. Dialoq olmayanda u\u015faq ail\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7ar\u0259siz oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk edir. Yaranm\u0131\u015f m\u0259nz\u0259r\u0259nin m\u00fcsb\u0259t olmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 yalana t\u0259hrik etm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Ki\u00e7ik hadis\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 aqressiv reaksiyalar ver\u0259n valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ar\u0259sizliy\u0259 t\u0259hrik edir. \u00c7ar\u0259sizliy\u0259 t\u0259hrik olmu\u015f u\u015faq \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolunu intiharda g\u00f6r\u00fcr. U\u015faq bilm\u0259lidir ki, o d\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck s\u0259hvini bel\u0259 ets\u0259, onun s\u0259hvini izah ed\u0259c\u0259k valideynl\u0259ri var.<\/p>\n
U\u015faqlar\u0131n \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 intihar haqq\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn hans\u0131 add\u0131mlar atmal\u0131d\u0131r valideynl\u0259r. Bunun qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259l\u0259r etm\u0259liyik?<\/b><\/p>\n
\u015eidd\u0259t\u0259 \u015fahidlik zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n birba\u015fa u\u015fa\u011fa y\u00f6n\u0259lm\u0259m\u0259sin\u0259 baxmayaraq, u\u015fa\u011fa v\u0259 onun inki\u015faf\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn z\u0259r\u0259rlidir. Zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u015fahidi olan u\u015faqlar suisidal d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 sahibl\u0259nirl\u0259r. Ail\u0259nin b\u0259zi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 zorak\u0131l\u0131q olarsa, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, valideynl\u0259r aras\u0131nda, dig\u0259r m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 \u015fidd\u0259t riski a\u00e7\u0131q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 art\u0131r, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, qarda\u015f v\u0259 bac\u0131lar aras\u0131nda v\u0259 ya valideynl\u0259 u\u015faq aras\u0131nda. M\u0259i\u015f\u0259t zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u015fahidlik etm\u0259k u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259 alt\u0131na al\u0131r v\u0259 t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259siz u\u015faq-valideyn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 x\u0259l\u0259l g\u0259tirir. U\u015faq-valideyn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin pozulmas\u0131 u\u015faq v\u0259 valideyn aras\u0131nda sa\u011flam k\u00f6rp\u00fcn\u00fcn in\u015fa edilm\u0259sin\u0259 t\u0259sir edir. U\u015faqlar h\u0259r zaman \u015fahidi oldu\u011fu hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 h\u0259ssas yana\u015f\u0131rlar. Yetkinl\u0259r ad\u0259t\u0259n u\u015faqlar\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hadis\u0259l\u0259rin zorak\u0131l\u0131q d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259sini az qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirirl\u0259r. U\u015faq psixikas\u0131nda suisidal fikirl\u0259rin m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259si u\u015faqlarda narahatl\u0131q, davran\u0131\u015f pozuntusu v\u0259 aqressiv davran\u0131\u015f, inki\u015faf\u0131n axsamas\u0131, \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r, depressiya v\u0259 t\u0259\u015fvi\u015f, sosial \u00fcnsiyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n yay\u0131nma kimi psixoloji aspektl\u0259rd\u0259 ayd\u0131n olur.<\/p>\n
H\u0259r u\u015faq intihar\u0131 haqq\u0131nda e\u015fid\u0259nd\u0259 yana\u015fmam\u0131z bu olur ki, “u\u015faq n\u0259 bilir \u00f6l\u00fcm n\u0259dir?\u201d \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda \u00f6l\u00fcm anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rinkind\u0259n n\u0259 il\u0259 f\u0259rql\u0259nir?<\/b><\/p>\n
U\u015faqlar 5 ya\u015f\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn son oldu\u011funu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr. \u00d6l\u00fcm\u00fcn geri d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fc olan bir hadis\u0259 kimi q\u0259bul edirl\u0259r. 5 ya\u015f\u0131ndan sonra u\u015faqlar \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn bir son oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. D\u0259rk etm\u0259k m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259sind\u0259 \u00f6l\u00fcm\u0259 sehrl\u0259, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 v\u0259 arzularla qalib g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. G\u00fccl\u0259rin\u0259 olan inam, \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ala bil\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini v\u0259 do\u011fmalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6l\u00fcmd\u0259n qoruya bil\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. 10 ya\u015f\u0131ndan etibar\u0259n \u00f6l\u00fcm anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn daha m\u00fcc\u0259rr\u0259d olma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. U\u015faqlar\u0131n fikirl\u0259rind\u0259 formala\u015fm\u0131\u015f m\u00fcc\u0259rr\u0259dliy\u0259 ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n
U\u015faqlarda \u00f6l\u00fcm anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n formala\u015f\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, valideynl\u0259r \u00f6l\u00fcm haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fark\u0259n ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259ri \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc q\u0259bul etm\u0259li v\u0259 onunla bar\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. \u00d6l\u00fcm\u00fcn qorxulu hadis\u0259 olaraq g\u00f6rm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn emosional v\u0259 f\u0259ls\u0259fi yana\u015fmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z, o zaman u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131za sa\u011flam m\u0259lumat vermi\u015f olacaqs\u0131n\u0131z. T\u00f6vsiyy\u0259 olunur ki, u\u015faqlarla \u00f6l\u00fcm haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fark\u0259n g\u0259rginlikd\u0259n uzaq v\u0259 rahat olmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. U\u015faqlarda \u00e7a\u015fq\u0131nl\u0131q yaratmamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn laz\u0131ms\u0131z detallar\u0131 vur\u011fulamadan veril\u0259n suallara ayd\u0131n v\u0259 q\u0131sa cavablar verilm\u0259lidir. \u00d6l\u00fcm yuxu kimi t\u0259qdim edilm\u0259m\u0259lidir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n yuxuya getm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b ola bil\u0259r. \u00d6l\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsin uzaq m\u0259saf\u0259y\u0259 getdiyi kimi fikirl\u0259r dem\u0259k olmaz. U\u015faq maraqlanacaq ki, niy\u0259 ona deyilm\u0259yib, o \u0259s\u0259bl\u0259\u015f\u0259c\u0259k, h\u0259tta s\u0259f\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xan qohumunun geri qay\u0131tmayaca\u011f\u0131ndan narahat olacaq. U\u015faqlara sad\u0259 v\u0259 a\u011f\u0131r x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259rin f\u0259rqi izah edilm\u0259lidir. X\u0259st\u0259l\u0259ndi v\u0259 \u00f6ld\u00fc kimi izahlar u\u015faqlarda x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259 qorxusu yarad\u0131r. Qocal\u0131b v\u0259fat etdi kimi ifad\u0259 d\u0259 do\u011fru deyil. Qocal\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcm s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rind\u0259n biri oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259 bil\u0259rik, amma insan h\u0259r ya\u015fda \u00f6l\u0259 bil\u0259r, amma insan\u0131n uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t ya\u015famaq g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcn oldu\u011funu dem\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. U\u015fa\u011fa h\u0259yat\u0131n reall\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqq\u0131nda d\u00fczg\u00fcn izah verilm\u0259lidir. U\u015faq h\u0259yat\u0131n ya\u015famaq v\u0259 \u00f6l\u00fcm aras\u0131nda zaman oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk etm\u0259lidir ki, h\u0259yat\u0131 s\u00fcni t\u0259rk etm\u0259sin. Ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131n pe\u015f\u0259 oldu\u011funu ifad\u0259 etm\u0259liyik. U\u015faqlarla b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259sind\u0259 \u00f6l\u00fcm anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u0259sas f\u0259rqi budur: U\u015faqlar sevgisizlikd\u0259n, b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r is\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tinlikd\u0259n \u00f6l\u00fcr. \u0130st\u0259r fiziki, ist\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259 psixoloji \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn ya\u015f\u0131 yoxdur. B\u00fct\u00fcn \u00f6l\u00fcml\u0259r\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 bir sehrimiz var, o da sevgidir.<\/p>\n
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Psixoloq R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov:\u00a0“Valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 psixoloqa aparmaqdan \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Psixoloqlar “d\u0259li h\u0259kimi\u201d deyil. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda el\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f ver\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, u\u015faq onu \u00f6z do\u011fmalar\u0131 il\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxa bil\u0259r.\u201d D\u00fcnyada insan \u00f6l\u00fcml\u0259rinin \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rind\u0259n biri d\u0259 intiharlard\u0131r.T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcfl\u0259r olsun ki, m\u00fcasir d\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0259n \u00e7ox m\u00fcbariz\u0259 apard\u0131\u011f\u0131 qlobal b\u0259lalar\u0131n da ba\u015f\u0131nda intiharlar dayan\u0131r. \u00dcst\u0259lik g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u0259n t\u0259dbirl\u0259r\u0259 baxmayaraq nisb\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 he\u00e7 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":15468,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15486","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-society"],"yoast_head":"\n