B\u0259z\u0259n el\u0259 olur ki, insanlar uzun ill\u0259r bir yerd\u0259 ya\u015faya bilirl\u0259r, lakin bir-birl\u0259rini sevdikl\u0259rini hiss etmirl\u0259r v\u0259 yaln\u0131z rahatl\u0131q v\u0259 v\u0259rdi\u015f \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259n birlikd\u0259 qal\u0131rlar: qon\u015fular kimi v\u0259 ya qarda\u015f-bac\u0131 kimi. Psixoloq Stanislav Samburski Gazeta.Ru-ya bildirib ki, biz \u201cv\u0259rdi\u015f\u201d dey\u0259nd\u0259 \u00e7ox vaxt incitm\u0259y\u0259n, bizi narahat etm\u0259y\u0259n, g\u0259mini yell\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n h\u0259r \u015feyi n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tuturuq.<\/p>\n
“Ancaq s\u0259mimi olaq. V\u0259rdi\u015f n\u0259 inc\u0259likdir, n\u0259 d\u0259 ehtirasd\u0131r. Bu, proqnozla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131la bil\u0259nlikdir. Bu, ssenarini yenid\u0259n qurmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259lav\u0259 enerji s\u0259rf etm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n beyindir: qalx, q\u0259hv\u0259, s\u0259h\u0259r yem\u0259yi, “sabah\u0131n\u0131z xeyir”, messencer, i\u015f, “g\u00fcn\u00fcn nec\u0259 ke\u00e7di?”, yat.
\nRahat ola bil\u0259r – \u0259g\u0259r onun alt\u0131nda emosional bir n\u00fcv\u0259 varsa. V\u0259 havas\u0131z ola bil\u0259r – m\u0259zmunsuz bir qab\u0131qd\u0131rsa “dedi.<\/p>\n
Psixologiyada buna emosional \u0259tal\u0259t deyilir: bir \u0259laq\u0259 canl\u0131 hiss oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, tan\u0131\u015f trayektoriya il\u0259 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etm\u0259k dayan\u0131b \u201chara gedirik?\u201d sual\u0131n\u0131 verm\u0259kd\u0259n daha asan oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn davam etdikd\u0259.<\/p>\n
Sevginin h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 at\u0259\u015ff\u0259\u015fanl\u0131q olmas\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fck bir yanl\u0131\u015f fikirdir. Bir \u0259laq\u0259nin ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c\u0131ndak\u0131 at\u0259\u015ff\u0259\u015fanl\u0131q hormonlar\u0131n artmas\u0131 il\u0259 t\u0259min edilir. Sonra hormonlar q\u0131c\u0131qlanma\u011f\u0131 dayand\u0131r\u0131r v\u0259 emosional at\u0259\u015ff\u0259\u015fanl\u0131q romantik tonqalla \u0259v\u0259zl\u0259nir, daha sonra rahat, isti sobaya \u00e7evrilir. Ancaq uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t istilik hiss etm\u0259misinizs\u0259, \u0259riniz\u0259 v\u0259 ya arvad\u0131n\u0131za daha yax\u0131n olmaq ist\u0259mirsinizs\u0259, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rinizi, planlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 v\u0259 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rinizi b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259yi dayand\u0131r\u0131n – b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 bu, art\u0131q soba deyil, k\u00f6m\u00fcrd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n
“M\u00fc\u015ft\u0259ril\u0259r tez-tez deyirl\u0259r: h\u0259r \u015fey qaydas\u0131ndad\u0131r, \u0259rim i\u00e7ki i\u00e7mir, q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rm\u0131r, ev\u0259 pul g\u0259tirir. Amma biz otaq yolda\u015f\u0131 kimi ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q. Qad\u0131n bilmir ki, m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 qalmaq ist\u0259yir, ya yox, \u00e7\u00fcnki “m\u0259n ba\u015fqa he\u00e7 kiml\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fm\u0259s\u0259m nec\u0259 olarsa, ham\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bel\u0259dir”. Bu “ham\u0131 bel\u0259dir” \u0259n t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259li yanl\u0131\u015f anlay\u0131\u015flardan biridir, “V\u0259 bel\u0259 olmamal\u0131d\u0131r”.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
B\u0259z\u0259n el\u0259 olur ki, insanlar uzun ill\u0259r bir yerd\u0259 ya\u015faya bilirl\u0259r, lakin bir-birl\u0259rini sevdikl\u0259rini hiss etmirl\u0259r v\u0259 yaln\u0131z rahatl\u0131q v\u0259 v\u0259rdi\u015f \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259n birlikd\u0259 qal\u0131rlar: qon\u015fular kimi v\u0259 ya qarda\u015f-bac\u0131 kimi. Psixoloq Stanislav Samburski Gazeta.Ru-ya bildirib ki, biz \u201cv\u0259rdi\u015f\u201d dey\u0259nd\u0259 \u00e7ox vaxt incitm\u0259y\u0259n, bizi narahat etm\u0259y\u0259n, g\u0259mini yell\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n h\u0259r \u015feyi n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tuturuq. “Ancaq s\u0259mimi olaq. V\u0259rdi\u015f […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":71912,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[36,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-71911","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-media","category-society"],"yoast_head":"\n