Psixoloq R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov:<\/b>\u00a0“Biz \u00e7oxlu s\u0259hvl\u0259r etm\u0259kl\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259qiq\u0259timizi tapm\u0131\u015f oluruq. H\u0259qiq\u0259timizi is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz tapd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bizim olur. Ba\u015fqalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 ya\u015famaq, onlar\u0131n fikirl\u0259rini \u00f6n\u0259ms\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259 biz, sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc m\u0259nas\u0131zla\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oluruq\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u00d6mr\u00fcn \u0259n h\u0259ssas se\u00e7imi: \u0130frat azadl\u0131qla \u015fidd\u0259tin aras\u0131nda<\/b><\/p>\n
AYNA “Valideyn \u00f6vlad\u0131na s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verm\u0259lidir, yoxsa daim n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r? Balans\u0131 qorumaq nec\u0259 m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr?\u201d suallar\u0131na cavab axtar\u0131b.<\/p>\n
\u0130ctimai.az<\/b>\u00a0x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq, “\u0130nsan M\u00fch\u0259ndisliyi\u201d proqram\u0131n\u0131n r\u0259hb\u0259ri R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov AYNA-n\u0131n suallar\u0131n\u0131 cavabland\u0131r\u0131b.<\/p>\n
Psixoloq, “\u0130nsan M\u00fch\u0259ndisliyi\u201d proqram\u0131n\u0131n r\u0259hb\u0259ri R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov valideynl\u0259rin g\u0259ncl\u0259rl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 onlara s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verm\u0259l\u0259rinin do\u011fru oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr: “Valideynl\u0259rimizin g\u0259ncl\u0259rimiz\u0259 yana\u015fmas\u0131 dostluq m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri formas\u0131nda olmal\u0131d\u0131r. G\u0259ncl\u0259rin dialoqa, anlay\u0131\u015fa, m\u00fczakir\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 var. Bunu c\u0259miyy\u0259tl\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, valideynl\u0259 etm\u0259lidir, \u00e7\u00fcnki, bir g\u0259ncin h\u0259yat\u0131nda valideyni h\u0259m dostudur, h\u0259m d\u0259 onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259tdir. C\u0259miyy\u0259t birinci n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 ail\u0259dir. T\u0259bii ki, g\u0259ncl\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259rb\u0259stlik, azadl\u0131q verm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Azadl\u0131q verirs\u0259n ki, o, \u00e7oxlu se\u00e7iml\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fs\u0131n, do\u011frunu se\u00e7m\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259nsin. Bizim valideynl\u0259rimiz \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259hv etm\u0259sind\u0259n narahat olurlar, amma, insan s\u0259hvl\u0259ri il\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr. S\u0259hv anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259dir. S\u0259hv etm\u0259s\u0259k, t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259 d\u0259 qazana bilm\u0259rik. Biz \u00e7oxlu s\u0259hvl\u0259r etm\u0259kl\u0259, \u00f6z h\u0259qiq\u0259timizi tapm\u0131\u015f oluruq. H\u0259qiq\u0259timizi is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz tapd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bizim olur. Ba\u015fqalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 ya\u015famaq, onlar\u0131n fikirl\u0259rini \u00f6n\u0259ms\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259 biz, sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc m\u0259nas\u0131zla\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oluruq. G\u0259ncl\u0259r d\u0259 t\u0259bii olaraq bununla raz\u0131la\u015fm\u0131rlar\u201d.<\/p>\n
“G\u0259nclik insan h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n f\u0259rqlilik, yenilik axtaran d\u00f6vr\u00fcd\u00fcr. Bu d\u00f6vrd\u0259 insan zehniyy\u0259ti psixoloji olaraq b\u00fct\u00fcn f\u0259rqlilikl\u0259r\u0259, yenilikl\u0259r\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131q olur. B\u0259z\u0259n f\u0259rqlilik v\u0259 yenilikl\u0259r ist\u0259yi bizi \u00e7oxlu alternativl\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fcz-\u00fcz\u0259 qoyur. Bu halda biz yeni h\u0259yatlarla tan\u0131\u015f oluruq v\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zla m\u00fcqayis\u0259 apard\u0131qda n\u0259l\u0259rins\u0259 do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. \u018fg\u0259r h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 qaydas\u0131nda deyils\u0259, bu m\u00fcqayis\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczl\u0259 dialoqa ba\u015flay\u0131r\u0131q. Bu, t\u0259f\u0259kk\u00fcr anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. T\u0259f\u0259kk\u00fcr\u00fcn \u0259sas qaydas\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 sual verm\u0259k v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc axtarmaqd\u0131r. \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc axtaranda psixoloji g\u0259rginlikl\u0259r yaran\u0131r, h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131z oldu\u011funu, ona he\u00e7 bir \u015fans verm\u0259diyini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr v\u0259 bu, patoloji hala ke\u00e7\u0259nd\u0259 intihar ba\u015f verir\u201d, – dey\u0259 psixoloq bildirib.<\/p>\n
Onun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, b\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, onlara \u00e7ox m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 edirl\u0259r: “Lakin valideynl\u0259r bilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, daim onlar\u0131n n\u0259zar\u0259ti alt\u0131nda olan \u00f6vladlar\u0131 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 real h\u0259yat imtahanlar\u0131 il\u0259 \u00fcz-\u00fcz\u0259 qald\u0131qda, psixoloji olaraq h\u0259yata m\u0259\u011flub olacaqlar\u201d.<\/b><\/p>\n
Psixoloq insan h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259y\u0259 salma\u011f\u0131n do\u011fru bir t\u0259rbiy\u0259 metodu olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na diqq\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kib: “Valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131 il\u0259 dialoq qurmal\u0131, s\u0259hv se\u00e7im ets\u0259 bel\u0259, onun yan\u0131nda olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar ki, bu t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259d\u0259n sonra o, do\u011frunu tapa bilsin. Yoxsa bir insan\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259y\u0259 salmaqla, t\u0259rbiy\u0259l\u0259ndirm\u0259k olmur. T\u0259rbiy\u0259 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 t\u0259hsil v\u0259 m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259td\u0259n ibar\u0259tdir. T\u0259hsil v\u0259 m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tin d\u0259 \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri bundan ibar\u0259tdir ki, insan oxumal\u0131, \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259li v\u0259 ya\u015famal\u0131d\u0131r. Ya\u015famaq bir pe\u015f\u0259dir v\u0259 bunun pe\u015f\u0259kar\u0131 olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fctl\u0259q s\u0259hvl\u0259r etm\u0259liyik. S\u0259hvl\u0259rimizi m\u00fczakir\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yimiz do\u011fmalar\u0131m\u0131z olmal\u0131d\u0131r. N\u0259 olursa-olsun, anlay\u0131\u015f g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259liyik. Bizim valideynl\u0259rd\u0259 \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, empatiya hissi yoxdur. Valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131na “m\u0259n h\u0259r \u015feyi yax\u015f\u0131 bilir\u0259m\u201d zehniyy\u0259ti il\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131rlar. B\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 bunun n\u0259tic\u0259si he\u00e7 yax\u015f\u0131 olmur. \u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 itir\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259rk edirl\u0259r ki, \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n kim olmaq, harada olmaq ist\u0259diyi il\u0259 he\u00e7 vaxt maraqlanmay\u0131blar\u201d.<\/p>\n
N\u0259c\u0259fov qada\u011falar\u0131n m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259ki s\u0259mimiyy\u0259ti aradan g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc deyib: “\u00d6vladla valideyn aras\u0131nda dialoq olmal\u0131, valideyn \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n verdiyi q\u0259rarlar\u0131 d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259m\u0259lidir ki, arada s\u0259mimiyy\u0259t olsun. H\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 qada\u011fa qoyanda \u00f6vlad he\u00e7 n\u0259yi valideynl\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr, n\u0259yis\u0259 soru\u015fanda da yalan v\u0259 b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259r olur. \u018fg\u0259r valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131 il\u0259 dialoq qura bilmir, hans\u0131sa m\u00fczakir\u0259 apara bilmirl\u0259rs\u0259, m\u00fctl\u0259qdir ki, psixoloqla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fs\u00fcnl\u0259r. \u00d6vladlar\u0131nda g\u0259rginlik m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 etdikl\u0259rind\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259ri d\u0259, \u00f6vladlar\u0131 da psixoloqla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. U\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n psixoloji d\u0259st\u0259k almas\u0131 onun suallar\u0131na \u00f6z\u00fc cavab tapmas\u0131na t\u0259kan, k\u00f6m\u0259k olacaq\u201d.<\/p>\n
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Psixoloq R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov:\u00a0“Biz \u00e7oxlu s\u0259hvl\u0259r etm\u0259kl\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259qiq\u0259timizi tapm\u0131\u015f oluruq. H\u0259qiq\u0259timizi is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz tapd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bizim olur. Ba\u015fqalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 ya\u015famaq, onlar\u0131n fikirl\u0259rini \u00f6n\u0259ms\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259 biz, sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc m\u0259nas\u0131zla\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oluruq\u201d. \u00d6mr\u00fcn \u0259n h\u0259ssas se\u00e7imi: \u0130frat azadl\u0131qla \u015fidd\u0259tin aras\u0131nda AYNA “Valideyn \u00f6vlad\u0131na s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verm\u0259lidir, yoxsa daim n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r? Balans\u0131 qorumaq nec\u0259 m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr?\u201d suallar\u0131na cavab axtar\u0131b. \u0130ctimai.az\u00a0x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":9966,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10,50,2,9,8,41,1,54],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-banner","category-youth","category-trend","category-featured","category-exclusiv","category-life","category-society","category-education"],"yoast_head":"\n